Have you ever found that after a crazy, stressful week of working long hours and feeling overwhelmed, you finally make it to the weekend only to wake up sick and you’re stuck in bed? Well that is where I’m writing this from….. bed!
The first week back after the summer holidays is always stressful but last week got me thinking….. if I don’t consciously make some changes to my routine then this is going to become my norm for the rest of the winter. By changes, what I really mean is start making myself more of a priority.
Obviously, no one wants to be that person that thinks that the world should revolve around their schedule and desires, but putting yourself first doesn’t make you a terrible person. It also doesn’t mean that I’m neglecting my children or husband by prioritising time for myself.
If there is one thing I have learned over the past year, it is that saying yes all the time left me wiped out and spending too many weekends in bed suffering the consequences of trying to please everyone else.
So, this September all of that is about to change. Being my birth month, what better time to start making it all about me, well maybe not all, but definitely more.
Heres my top tips on how I’m going to make more time for myself…..
Working out is an important part of my life and is my way of switching off, de-stressing and having some “me time”. However, it’s usually the first thing that goes when I’m super busy and trying to squeeze too much into my schedule. It’s so easy to let my workout time be filled with other appointments and convince myself that I’ll find another slot to fit my workout in – which I rarely do. This month, I’ve written my workouts into my diary (in pen) and I will try my hardest not to cancel these appointments.
I think we are all guilty of spending too much time online and I’ll admit I overuse the “it’s for work” far too often. Being self employed it’s really hard to just switch off, especially on an evening when emails and enquiries are still coming in.
Once the kids are in bed I find myself far too often checking and replying to these emails, updating website plugins and before I know it, it’s 10pm and time for bed. This month I’m going to set a “log off” time and stick to it. There has got to be an end to my working day and a absolute break from screen time and social media.
As a busy mum, I spend a lot of time running around after other people whether it be at work or at home. Predominantly it’s the kids (which I don’t resent) whether it be dropping them at clubs, having friends over, cooking, cleaning – the list is endless.
This month, I’ll still be doing those things but I’ve decided that I’m also going to do something for me. Whenever it comes to scheduling time for ourselves we always find something else to do – usually for someone else that fills that slot.
For ages I’ve been thinking about enrolling on a course but been putting it off as I’ve convinced myself “I just don’t have the time”. So, in September I am making the time and have signed up to my course and can’t wait to get started.
My advice to you all this month is stop feeling guilty for taking time out for you, and realise in the long run, it’s a win-win for everyone.
When you are tired, stressed out and pulled in too many directions, it is hard to keep motivated and to stay healthy physically and mentally. Remember, self-time is not selfish—it’s a necessary dimension of self care.
What are you going to do this month for YOU as part of #SelfCareSeptember